While I’m now universally known as the “Networking Queen”, I wasn’t always able to connect with people and enjoy making new friends. 10 years ago I was terrified of strangers, to the point where I couldn’t meet someone for a coffee, let alone attend an event and now speak in front of hundreds of people.

A wave of terror washes over me when I know I'm going to be put on the spot. In an environment where there are cameras, lights, microphones and strangers, it can be overwhelmingly daunting, panic attack worthy.

I am in the business of showing people how they can connect well with others. I love networking in person but the current environment has meant things have dramatically changed. So many more of our interactions have moved online so we are connecting through a screen and/or camera.

I’ve met a lot of people who are petrified of going to regular networking meetings because they hate the idea of having to do a 60 second pitch about their business each week. And I don’t blame them – several years ago I was in the exact same position, if not even worse.

Are you like me and detest the idea of putting pen to paper? Do you worry that you won’t be able to come up with something that people will actually be interested in reading?

My most recent fear project of working with video is definitely a tough one to tackle. As long as I can remember, I've hated being on show, having my photo taken, being the centre of attention.

Public speaking is considered one of the top three most traumatic experiences in a person’s life, alongside death and divorce. Interestingly, only 20% who do it actually even enjoy it. Most managers avoid it at all costs and delegate the role to a direct report. Being someone who is a bit of a sucker for a challenge, I knew I wanted to conquer this demon.

We’re all beginners at some point in our lives. We don't become specialists or experts in our fields by staying put and not trying anything new. At a time in my life when I was terrified of strangers, I made a decision that I was going to be bold and take action.

Are you casting your net wide enough? Although there are plenty of ways to build a network, one of the ways I love to look at it is like fishing.

Giving is a fundamental part of networking – it brings out the best in us, helps others feel good and allows them to be receptive and engaged with things that we have to say.

Sitting by a warm cosy fire on a cold winter’s night is one of life’s simple pleasures. The resplendent glow that radiates and the long promise of warmth makes for an inviting night in. The majestic flames bring both fascination and smiles as sparks fly.